Have you ever felt when arguing that your real goal is not to argue but to convincing others? We often enter into arguments with the intention of winning, not to find out what the real truth is.
Many times in life, we are right, but our style of argument is so harsh, stubborn, or personal that the other person distances themselves from us, even if we win the argument.
The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said:
“I guarantee a house in the middle of Paradise for the one who leaves an argument even though he is right.”
Leaving an argument is not weakness, but a sign of great wisdom. Those who speak with the intention of silencing others, rather than convincing them, lose relationships and hurt hearts.
It is not important to convince others, it is important to explain. It is not just a difference in words, but a complete change of mind. When you make it your intention that my goal is to convince the other person, not to defeat him, then your tone, words, style of conversation, everything changes. And then the person in front of you also starts listening.
If you want people to listen to you, first make room in their hearts, not just in their ears.
Remember:
“Words from the tongue go to the ears, but words from the heart go to the hearts.”
The stubbornness of persuasion breaks relationships, but the wisdom of persuasion connects hearts.
Muhammad Akbar